5 Ways to Talk to Your Kids So Your Kids Will Listen

Do the kids respond when you called his or her name? Do they look at your face whenever you try to communicate with them? Do the kids say thanks to you when you give them gifts? 

If you answered NO to each of the questions, you might want to scroll down this article and take the tips given here. 

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A kid..

has a lot of things in their mind that we as adults are clueless about what they are thinking. At the age of 6 years old, their task is exploring the world. So they are busy doing that and can’t focus on what is important for them.
 
We put the effort to learn how to operate a brand new machine by reading the manual given so it will work well right? So, why don’t we learn the tips on how to tackle the way to talk to the kids so they will listen to us. 

1. Don't start talking or giving instruction to your child until you have your child's attention first.

You cannot expect your kids will react back to what you are saying from afar just like what you did to your friends. But, what you must do first is to go near them, hold them and keep your eye level the same as theirs. Call out their name and when they answered, only then you can talk. Feel the connection with them first by saying out things that they are interested in. 
 
Brain research has found that when we feel connected to another person, we’re more open to their influence, so by connecting first, you’re making it easy for them to listen to you.

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2. Don't repeat yourself.

Bear in mind that whenever you asked them a question but they didn’t respond, no need to repeat yourself again! That is totally wrong and a waste of time. Repeat the first step again.  Grab their attention first.

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3. Use fewer words.

Try to minimize your word in your instruction to them. If got so many words, they might get confused and end up ignoring it all.

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4. See it from his point of view.

Let’s imagine that you are in the middle of settling your work and suddenly your partner come and interrupt you and ask you to help her to do the housekeeping things. How would you feel? 

It is the same for your kids too. Your child doesn’t have to share your priorities, he just has to accommodate your needs. Try to be in your kid’s shoes.

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5.Set Up Routine

Routine is just like a regular habit. For example to clean up the room before leaving or to wash the plates after eating. To make your kid stick with the routine, most importantly the parents no need to nag!. Yes, keep it simple. Refer to point 3 above. Kids won’t listen to nag. 

Instead, make a schedule or to-do list and paste it on the wall or somewhere they can see it. Once they have done certain work, praise them and put a ‘tick’ or ‘done’ sign on the list. They will feel it is a fun activity instead.

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The bottomline

Some might find that dealing with kids is so stressful. No wonder many housewives nowadays who juggle with kids have developed unhealthy stress.

Reading this article may ease your heavy emotion a bit. But it definitely feels really good when you’re able to put these tips to work for you and the kids after this.

All in all, the fundamental way to communicate and deal with the kids so they will listen to you are:

  1. Keep ourselves calm first
  2. Make a connection with the kids
  3. Communicate with them and engage the empathy

Remember, kids are also human, and human does not like to be ordered around.